The halls are decked with boughs of hollies, you already hear Christmas songs being played over the radio and your calendar is already full of parties and get-together. Everything looks a-OK and geared up for the holidays. But unfortunately, you dread it. That is, going to family gatherings where you will be asked over and over again why are you single and how bad it is for your parents not to have a grandchild at their age. One of them might think that giving you dating magazine as a present is a good idea. Or a good aunt of yours might even get you to sign up with an online dating service like Parship Ireland. Remember that their intentions are good. But you do not have to look and feel somber just because you are single during the holidays.
Here are some tips to a joyful holiday season even if you are single:
- Choose to be happy. Tell yourself that this is going to be the happiest Christmas you ever had and believe it. Positive self-talk can do wonders. Decide and choose to be happy no matter what your family relationships are like.
- Surprise your troublesome relatives by being cordial. Even though it is tough, think of things that you appreciate about them. And tell them. Incorporate these into your conversations and be sincere. This gesture will make them react to you positively. But if not, it’s not your loss.
Choose not to fight when facing a quarrelsome relative. Acknowledge annoying comments about you appearance, weight or singlehood with just a nod or a smile and by saying “That’s the way you see it!”. This will somehow throw them off and will save you from a lot of stress.
Quality time as a gift is wonderful. Whether it’s a long walk and talk, a getaway or a family trip, giving your time and attention is the most valuable present of all. Time is fleeting so enjoy your family and relative while you still can.
Perform random acts of kindness everyday during the holiday season. Unselfish acts of giving without expecting anything in return can do good to your health and mood. It is a sure way of having good spirits during the stressful holidays.
Remember, your singlehood need not to be a reason for you to be depressed during the holidays. There are many ways to enjoy the season alone or with the family, relatives and friends who are close to your heart.